Mental Health and Your Life Line

Happy Wednesday everyone! I don’t know about you but half way through the week I like to have a real quick in the butt to motivate me to get through the rest of the week. Sometimes that means using my morning time to have some deep conversations with myself (admit it…you talk to yourself too) and sometimes it means having some reflective moments on my growth. Lately it’s been the latter of the two, which honestly gets me in my feels, and I’m already an emotional person as it is.

In taking time to reflect on how much I’ve grown just in the last year and how different my life looks like from last year, I’ve realized how much people just need to be ok not being ok…let me explain. 2019 was a difficult year for me, and if I’m honest it has been the MOST difficult year of my life so far.  Even today I don’t know what caused it to be such a mental journey for me; it could have been all the things I’d been holding in for so long finally just wanting to take over, it could have been the stresses of my job and my boss, it could have been pure loneliness…the point is it didn’t matter, I was right in the middle of some messy stuff.

The one thing that made it even tougher was the struggle of dealing with it alone…mental health has been a very taboo topic in my family, even after having it be a main family focus for five straight years. Let’s be honest, mental health is still pretty much a taboo topic in most family households, even society refuses to fully acknowledge the truth about depression, bi-polar and so many of the other mind-numbing illnesses.

I was at the lowest point of the year, a point I never would have imagined being at, but there I was…after struggling alone I decided to use one final life line and see how that would work out. I reached out to a friend and just cried, I couldn’t explain why I was feeling what I was feeling, but she let me cry without any explanation and she remained a life-line all the rest of the year.

Now, you’re probably wondering…’Nathaly what’s the point of this post?’ Well if you haven’t noticed it’s 2020, we’re still very much in the middle of a pandemic without any indication as to how far we are from the light at the end of the tunnel. Most of us have spent the last 9 months at home, only making it outside to get some necessary shopping done or just a quick walk. From experience…I know there are so many dealing with some intense emotions and thoughts, and probably dealing with alone.

I want to urge you, if you are that person 1. know you’re not alone and 2. use your life line. Whatever it may be, whoever it may be…you know what it is or who it is. It’s that one thing or person in the back of your head that you know won’t judge you, won’t rush you through your emotions…but will listen and love you. Sometimes even the people closest to us can’t see how much we’re struggling, can’t see how we cry ourselves to sleep at night or can’t even imagine us bieng the person with those dark, intense thoughts that make us feel less than.

Whether your life line is a phone call away, a drive away or maybe even a quick walk away…take it! It could be a church, it could be a place full of good memories, it could be a priest, a friend or maybe even a coworker…you know your life line…that thing that you think about reaching out to in the middle of the night. But you use the excuse of not wanting to bother anyone, or it’s too late in the night…do it anyways.

2020 has been a mentally straining and draining year for many people, but I find that we haven’t really talked about our mental health as much as our physical health or physical safety. Mental health should be right up there, and in my opinion should be number one. I can assure you you’re not alone in how you’re feeling and sometimes people seeing you take the step to being vocal will encourage others to say ‘I’m struggling too’.

I used my life line and I can confidently say I’m here today because of it…but mostly because I took the first step. So go ahead…I have complete faith in you and if you don’t know your life line, please please please don’t be afraid to reach out to me, the stranger on the internet sometimes is better if you feel uncomfortable speaking up with those who know you. I’ll be a life line for anyone who needs it.

So be safe and be ok not being ok…but don’t sit in it by yourself <3

“What mental health needs is more sunlight, more candor, and more unashamed conversation” -Glenn Close

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